Mommy Guilt Be Gone!!

September 17, 2012 in Best of Both, Mommy Guilt, Work-Life Balance by MyBestofBothWorlds

As a full time working Mom, one of the hardest things to do was to leave my then eleven week old baby girl Kaitlyn home on Long Island with a nanny and venture back into Manhattan to return to work after my FMLA was finished.  Even after eighteen years, I still remember the awful dread I felt of having to do that.  I questioned myself constantly and panicked by horrifying thoughts of what if Kaitlyn loves the nanny more than me?  What if her language skills are compromised? (Our nanny’s first language was not English and she spoke with a heavy accent).  What if something happened and I couldn’t get back from Manhattan quick enough? With my hormones still raging and breasts still leaking, The What Ifs were ENDLESS!! The Mommy guilt was OVERWHELMING to say the least.

Then I got to work and I suffered more guilty pangs because I found it difficult to concentrate and focus on work when I was constantly thinking about her feeding or napping. Then I felt guilty for not being as high functioning as I used to be BK (before Kaitlyn).

As you know if you’ve been following the blog, my oldest had a Countdown and is Collegebound.  She is a smart, well adjusted loving young woman (if I do say so myself) and over the years I have come to the realization that there are bigger worries that my What Ifs~~ So Mommy Guilt BE GONE! That is my message to you today.

There is no shame in having help, whether a nanny, baby sitter, au pair, mother’s helper or someone else designated with the task is totally acceptable and guess what–it gives you peace of mind.  Some women are fortunate to have the choice to remain home, some couples sacrifice many extras in order for one parent to stay at home.  In our family, it wasn’t an option and I can honestly say I do love what I do.  I enjoy working outside the home, but make no bones about it, when work is done – it’s done.  Work stays at work (unless I’m on call or there is a major emergency).  So when I’m home I can focus on my family, on me and all the other things we do together. So, mommy guilt – be gone!

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